Having a circle of safety is something that I believe each person on this planet deserves. In my mind it SHOULD be a given and sadly it just isn’t, so many of us grew up in an environment that didn’t feel safe.
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No Fun Allowed
I was recently remembering a time in my 20’s when I stopped myself from having any fun at all. Nothing felt safe because my nervous system was completely out of whack, but I didn’t realize it at the time.
I would spend time with my bf and his friends who were a really cool bunch of folks. They did awesome things like creating puppet shows, playing games and being silly. But rather than allowing myself to participate, I stayed off on the sidelines feeling sad and frustrated but unable to play.
Trauma shows up in so many ways
I didn’t know at the time that this behavior was connected to the traumas I had experienced as a child. In huge part because of the ways in which my circle of safety had been destroyed.
I was suffering from a deep distrust of my own body. In addition, I was unable to trust those who were there to care for me to do their job.
This created a deep wound in connection with the divine feminine.
It’s taken me this lifetime so far to come to terms with this and create my own circle of safety.
Feeling worthy
A part of what I learned on a subconscious level was that I wasn’t worthy of being taken care of. I know this was not the intention of my caregivers, but it is the message that children get when their circle of safety isn’t the most important priority.
It is the message that I received and have spent much time reprogramming.
For many empaths, this is a struggle. This lack of WORTHINESS and his brother SHAME. These two often get in the way of being successful in our business and our lives. They keep us from experiencing pleasure and joy.
Wild Women
As Clarissa Pinkola Estes states in Women Who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype:
“It is worse to stay where one does not belong at all than to wander lost for a while looking for the psychic and soulful kinship one requires. “
When we stay in a place that is unsupported, we struggle to grow into the incredible healers, lightworkers and guides we are here to be.
We keep ourselves from living a full life filled with technicolor and vibrant experiences.
What would a circle of safety change in your life and business?
Imagine what it would feel like to come together with a group of women going through similar experiences as you, meeting twice a month to set intentions and clear out energy that is no longer serving you.
What might that feel like for you?
Would it change what you would be able to accomplish in your business?
Might you move through the world differently?
Find your feminine flow
If this is resonating with you and you are starting to feel like a circle of safety is exactly what you need, I’d love to connect. Book a virtual cuppa and let’s see if our energies are a match.
You can find out all the details here about the Find Your Feminine Flow.
If you’d like to find out more about the way wounded feminine energy can affect your business check out this article I shared.