low self esteem

Self-esteem is the way you view yourself. People with a healthy self-esteem can see both their flaws and their good qualities. They know they are not perfect but they’re also aware of all the good things they bring into the world simply by being themselves.

But low self-esteem is different. People with low self-esteem see a flawed version of themselves. Instead of seeing anything positive, these people only focus on the negative and feel badly about who they are. Being bullied or experiencing abuse as a child can often exacerbate the feeling of low self-esteem.

If you’re not sure if you struggle with low self-esteem, here are a few common signs of it…



Sign #1: You Feel Shame


Shame is the belief that deep down, you’re bad, unlovable, or worthless. It often convinces you to hide. The way you “hide” may be different depending on your personality. Sometimes, it involves your body language by hunching your shoulders, walking with your head down, or not meeting the gaze of another person when you’re in conversation.


In your business it can show us as a lack of visibility, a reluctance to really put yourself out into the world to be seen, and being unable to ask for the sale.

As an empath or highly sensitive person we have often spent our lives feeling different.  This sense of being different or “not normal” can often create shame.

Shame can also show up in other ways—overcompensating in one area of your life, trying not to draw attention to how you look, or over-apologizing for things that clearly aren’t your fault.


Sign #2: You Fear Failure


When you struggle with low self-esteem, it’s easy to believe that what you do is who you are. This creates tremendous pressure to do everything right. As a result, you’re not willing to try new things or experiment for fear you’ll mess up and become a failure.


Fear of failure may show up in one area of your life but not another. For example, you may be really great at creating graphics in canva but you struggle to write that book you’ve been dreaming of for fear that it won’t be amazing.


As an entrepreneur this fear can hold you back in ways that can have a direct impact on your bottom line. For example, the fear of not being perfect may prevent you from actually putting yourself or your work out there which severely limits your business opportunities.


Sign #3: You Keep Saying Yes


Yes can be a wonderful word—when you say it and truly mean it. But for many people with low self-esteem, they say “yes” to opportunities and events that aren’t a good fit for their skills or interests.


Some of this stems from a desire to get other people to like you. You might think if others like you, their approval will rub off on you and you’ll feel good about yourself. While that might work temporarily, you’re always looking for the next shot of approval and saying “yes” feels like the only way to get it.


This yes can also lead to resentment and anger, in addition to burn out.  Getting to know yourself and your emotions can help you find a way to say no sometimes and still feel safe and worthy.  Creating strong boundaries is a big lesson in for empaths in business.  


Sign #4: You Won’t Own Your Success


People with low self-esteem struggle to believe they deserve success. When they are praised or their work is acknowledged, they’re quick to downplay it. For example, you might say, “Sarah handled most of the work. I just came along at the end and put a finishing touch on it.”


Another way you might do this to call your success “luck” or tell others that you were simply in the right place at the right time. You may also struggle to accept compliments, dismiss kind words as someone being nice, or tell yourself that others are just trying to make you feel better.


Like a funhouse mirror distorts your image, so does low self-esteem. The good news is that even if you identified with some of the signs above, low self-esteem can be worked through and overcome with time. 

EFT tapping is an incredible tool to help build up your self-esteem.  


Final Thoughts


Over the course of my journey I have experienced each of these issues. Taking the time to slow down and really get to know myself has been an integral part of healing. I didn’t do it alone though. Having a coach or mentor has been integral. It has helped for those moments when I fall back into old patterns or feel stuck, or just need someone to clean the mirror so I can really see who I am.  

Do you need some support?

Let’s get on a no obligation call and see if our energies are a good match.  Changing low self-esteem into powerful belief in yourself is totally possible.  

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